Frustrated and forgotten is how many couples feel trying to plan their wedding day during the coronavirus pandemic.
Lauren Archer and her partner Tom Etherington are among the couples who have had to rearrange their date due to restrictions.
They are now due to get married on August 27, 2021, but the government’s delay in “Freedom Day” makes them question whether their day will go as planned.
Today Lauren shared what it was like to organize a wedding during the pandemic.
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Lauren, 34, said, “The most disturbing thing was trying to keep an eye on all the rules and having to keep asking, ‘Will they, won’t they?’
“The fear of having these conversations: ‘Yes, we originally invited you to the wedding, but now we are only allowed to have 50 guests – I’m sorry you didn’t make it’.
“The thought of it is unbearable, it’s like saying you’re not a good friend.
“I have in the back of my mind all along that if they do not continue easing restrictions, it will add another negative dimension to what is already worrying.”
Lauren and Tom from Low Fell got engaged on a hot air balloon in Australia in 2019 and immediately began planning their dream day upon their return.
But when the couple made their final preparations, the land was locked down.
At the time, Lauren never thought that a planned three-week lockdown would affect her wedding day, which was booked for June 12, 2021.
In January, however, she decided to move her wedding date to August 27, as her original date was becoming increasingly unlikely.
Lauren, a freelance public relations and marketing consultant, added, “I remember my mom telling me last year that my wedding might be the first time everyone got together, and I remember thinking, ‘None Case, obviously not ‘.
“But now my friends and I always laugh about it and call her a fortune teller because she is right and we wouldn’t have thought of it then.”
(Image: Lauren Archer)
The couple had already sent Save the Dates for the original date and rescheduling the date meant rescheduling with around 30 different suppliers who were luckily available.
Even so, the experience of arranging their wedding, which will be held at Stanton Hall Gardens in Morpeth, was stressful.
And she sympathizes with couples who have had to redesign their day several times, as well as the providers and companies in the wedding industry.
Lauren said, “We were really lucky and it was stressful even for us, so I can’t imagine what it was like for people who had to change their dates three or four times.”
She added, “There are many groups in the wedding industry that lobby the government and advocate for couples’ and corporate rights.
“They say people would take tests and check in – tell us what you want us to do and we will make it safer.
“But just standing on dry land without knowing what we can do – I think that gets on people’s nerves.
“I would literally do anything to make things easy to understand and make people feel more confident and secure, but it’s not even an option.”
Lauren stated that she needed to be adaptable and plan alternative arrangements in case some restrictions persist in August.
She fears that some restrictions, such as wearing face masks, could spoil the atmosphere on the day.
Lauren added, “Wedding masks and stupid things like no dancing are ridiculous. As much as it’s not about the party, it kind of is.
“I’ve had such great weddings over the years and we have planned every aspect so carefully.
“So when you say something like that we can’t have reception drinks, you think, ‘Well, why not?'”
“There have been a lot of event pilots like the football and the rave in Liverpool, but as far as I know there have never been wedding pilots.”