Nigerian writer Chimamanda Adichie finally revealed photos from her private wedding to Ivara Esege in 2009.
Ever since the couple tied the knot, the novelist had kept images of the event out of the public eye.
But in one Instagram post On Wednesday, the 43-year-old shared her first wedding photos, in which she is flanked by James Adichie and Ifeoma Adichie – her now deceased parents.
In a note accompanying the pictures, Adichie announced that it was she who directed her friends and family members not to publicly share the photos.
She also invoked existing Western wedding traditions, which she believes often banish the mother of the bride.
Adichie said that her determination to share the wedding photos was ultimately shaped by her desire to continue honoring her late mother and inspiring those who rise to question such traditions.
The renowned writer announced that she allowed both of her parents to lead her to the altar in order to break such traditions that only allow to assign the role to the father of the bride.
“I felt that western wedding traditions ignored the mother of the bride – the father leads the bride to the altar, the father does the first dance with the bride, often the father gives a speech, the mother doesn’t,” she wrote.
“Our wedding many years ago was small and fine, just as we wanted it to be. I asked family and friends not to post photos publicly. I wanted privacy. But my need for privacy is now overcome by my desire to publicly honor the rare and wonderful woman I called my mother.
“I hope this may inspire all the young women (and men) out there who question any kind of convention.”
“I decided to do my first dance with my mother. My father, whom I teasingly called DOS for ‘defender of the spouse’, supported me. He wasn’t a great dancer – I inherited his irregular genes – but my mother was.
“Convention is something that someone makes up and then others repeats. If convention feels wrong to you, if your skin is on the brink and your mind stagnates at the thought of doing something the way it’s done, stop and take action
“And my mother’s joy that day was wonderfully luminous.” We can make changes. We can try to make little pieces of the life we want. “We can break down conventions to make things fairer, more complete, and more beautiful.”
“Not everyone will be happy with you because it is human nature to keep things as they are, but your mind will feel full and there is nothing more useful than knowing that you have remained true to yourself are. “
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